Amidst the darkness, the doom and gloom, the day’s aren’t stopping. The calendar is still running, albeit at different pace sometimes, we witnessed how March dragged on till forever and how April didn’t bother to stick around for long. The same is happening with May as the second week has already commenced. But with it has come the very special days that come once in the year; a day set aside to celebrate women who have stepped into the unparalleled phase of life; motherhood. Yes, today is another mother’s celebration which interestingly seems to always fall on a Sunday for some miraculous reason no matter the year.
There’s a reason the earth, the seas, the nations and, fleets of ships take on a feminine gender. It is not to connote a weakness in any sense, but actually to signify the nurturing care and protection these things offer us as men, which is similar in more than one way to a mother’s core attributes. Mother Earth as she is affectionately known protects nature as best she can because though she is away there are prey and predators, she understands above all things that there ought to be balanced. The underlying fact is that sometimes nature comes in clutch even when we as humans destroy her as much. There are periods when the balance that exists has been upset by our activities and nature has to take time off to heal itself, which usually results in natural disasters.
But at her right time, she provides. We are reminded of Ghana’s hunger season in the year 1983 but what we don’t talk about a lot is the fact that things got better. The sea has claimed many a sailor’s life, as violent storms rage when sailors are at seas, but according to tales you’ll hear from fishermen and those who are out at sea, the sea is known sometimes to fight for man’s survival. A lot of these things could easily be myths and rumors mixed, however, there’s usually truth in there somewhere. Sailors, in particular, do not treat their ships as just ships, they refer to the ship as her and speak of her as a living breathing entity. It’s an inexplicable idea that has transcended generations and still does. Such is the power of the feminine gender and imagination.
Motherhood is probably the most interesting phase of a woman’s life, as she draws out potential she never even knew she possesses. Virtues of grace, patience, strength, and sacrifice are evident in animals who care for their young, and it’s no different in the human race. But motherhood has become a curse over the generations rather than the blessing it is. Quite simply because the rate at which single mothers have been left on their own to raise children is simply puzzling. Generations of children are being raised mostly only by single mothers. Having a family where both parents are both present and active in the participation of the children’s upbringing is becoming more and more a rare gift, and that shouldn’t be so. Mind you, this is not to say fathers haven’t held up their side of things. Fathers are the definition of underrated in this life and it is a title that every father subconsciously chooses and bears without animosity and hate. It could be better but that’s just how things are.
However, we can’t fail to neglect how much males have failed the family system and ultimately, the mother. Now more than ever, we as males have to break out of the ideology that the women alone are key to the upbringing of the children. It is that kind of thinking that has led to many males acting the way they act and treating women the way they treat them, ultimately replicating the idea of fatherhood in their own time and passing the culture on, and then the cycle goes again. I spoke at length on this in a write up I did some time ago titled ‘Toxic Masculinity; a rat trap’.
On this note, however, I’ll just share famous quotes about mothers and motherhood. These quotes explain to a degree what being a mother is about and what you need to be prepared for when it comes to it. I’m talking to the girls who think being a mother is about taking cute pictures with your baby and that’s it. All you pick up from the home are just preparations for you to start at 0 in the motherhood phase. So here goes.
“Mother is a verb. It’s something you do. Not just who you are.” – Dorothy Canfield Fisher
“Moms are the people who know us the best and love us the most.” – Unknown
“Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved.” – Erich Fromm
“For a mother is the only person on earth who can divide her love among 10 children and each child still has all her love.” – Unknown
“A mother’s love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible” – Marion C. Garretty.
“A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.” – Cardinal Mermillod
Happy mothers day to all our mothers. For without you, we would not be here in the first place. Without you, we wouldn’t be who we are. Without you, we can’t face tomorrow. Blessings!